Love Seals

We’ve all experienced varying degrees of the phrase Time Heals while recovering from surgery, grieving the loss of relationships or the passing of loved ones. In my experience, if time is the wise agent in the healing process, love is the medicine that seals our wounds thereafter.

How can it not?

Go back to the last time you were sick or recently operated, alone or in company. Hopefully, time and medication made you feel better as the days passed by. Now think of how you felt when you heard from those who cared for you. The company they dedicated to you changing their life just to be next to you; the daily texts and calls to check on you; the get well cards in the mail; the acts of generosity; the consideration of your work mentors; the Instagram messages to a story that suggested recovery; the words of encouragement to remind you who you are.

This is even more evident if you are an independent woman head of your own household.  In medical recoveries, after all is said and done, and as you pass your worst days of pain and fear, your space now frames the acts of caring that keep you floating in grace, lifted by the presence of those who took time to let you know you are loved.

Count me among the blessed ones who experienced the healing effects of this love medicine.

Now go back to the first or last time your heart broke to pieces.  The formula applies.

If you are a committed to doing the work  – self growth via spiritual or psychological mastery – no matter how trying or how painful the road or the experience was, your recovery can lead you to an unexpected form of love.

The kind that will transform you, leading you to compassion, forgiveness, appreciation, and more love for all they did, including what they could not do any better.

The kind that will find you wiser, lighter, happier.

I call it a filter of intentions, and not every person or love interest will pass it or come close.

But you know who met your heart, with all their failings, adding yours.

And as in medical interventions, when you look back at the experience, you should not look back at what healed you physically or made you evolve emotionally with disdain or regret.  Try a wall mirror, face whatever needs to be faced, and get ready to welcome more love. Self love.

My favorite quote from Mother Theresa comes close to this reflection  – “I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.”

It’s this kind love that makes us grow into someone who honors everyone involved in the most important decisions in our lives.

And the day your loved ones cross the bridge, it’s this kind of love that will seal their bridge to you forever.

This awakening is so prevalent, that the popular serie And Just Like That lands its on a podium for all us to contemplate: “My sadness never shrank but I grew, and grew until I was so large, the grief just felt smaller.  You don’t move on because you’re ready to. You move on because you’ve outgrown who you used to be.”

If who you used to be is one who lives in regret ignoring unhealed or unforgiving wounds of all kinds, take a look within.

And let love in.